When we decide to start a relationship with someone, we really have to want it because it will require a lot of energies and we have to make sure that that's something we really want, otherwise it will not end in a good way.
Even though it might seem a little hard, we need to discuss with the other person about our expectations and make everything clean, this way you'll both know if you want an exclusive relationship or if you wanna see other people, too. Personally, I believe that big part of a relationship depends on communication. If you keep everything inside and don't tell your partner what's wrong, eventually the two of you will realise that something changed without an apparent reason and trust me, this can ruin your relationship. I'm not saying that you should share every single detail of your life, but if you're feeling down and you treat the other one in a cold way, they will think that they did something wrong and will feel badly about their selves.
An another things that I've learnt is that no matter how you are interested in each other, you need to find something in common to stay united. So my advice is to find something that you both enjoy, like an hobby or even a tv series. Try to share as much as possible: like when you see a funny gif of facebook, show it to them and laugh together, no matter how stupid it might sound. This way you will share something with them and the connection will get stronger and stronger.
You should never take the person you're dating for granted, because trust me, you will eventually lose them over something that could've been avoided. Unfortunately, taking someone for granted is really easy, especially if you've been a part of each other's lives for a while. What I suggest is that you should keep the flame alive. Surprise each other, give random kisses, send goodnight text, make random compliments and make them understand that you care.
"I highly recommend for all the women in the world, even if they're 71, you can never take for granted that he loves you. It's always good to flirt with him. It's a great sport." cit. Salma Hayek
Dont' put pressure on them. Especially in the first stages of a relationship, you don't have to make them feel under pressure. Don't introduce them to all of your friends and to your parents if the relationship isn't that strong yet. You need to give each other time to understand how it's going between you. If they don't want to meet your parents immediately, it doesn't mean that they're not into you, it just means that they need time.
Risk. That's it. Don't be afraid of doing something just because the fear the reaction. If you feel love for them, just go there and tell them everything you feel, just tell them and everything will be fine.
“To me, “FEARLESS” is not the absence of fear. It’s not being completely unafraid. To me, FEARLESS is having fears. FEARLESS is having doubts. Lots of them. To me, FEARLESS is living in spite of those things that scare you to death. FEARLESS is falling madly in love again, even though you’ve been hurt before. [... ] FEARLESS is getting back up and fighting for what you want over and over again… even though every time you’ve tried before, you’ve lost. [...] I think loving someone despite what people think is FEARLESS. [...] But no matter what love throws at you, you have to believe in it. You have to believe in love stories and prince charmings and happily ever after. [...]" cit. Taylor Swift
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